Laughter: The Unexpected Medicine in Dementia Care

Caregiving is a journey filled with challenges, emotions, and moments that stretch your patience and resilience. But every so often, you stumble upon a gem of a moment that reminds you why connection matters—and sometimes, it comes with a hearty laugh.

This weekend, I had a session with a client who has been working with me to better manage her loved one with dementia. When we first started, our meetings were filled with tears. She hadn’t realized just how isolated and exhausted she felt until she had a space to share openly. Her caregiving journey had taken a toll, and she was running on empty.

But this session was different. For the first time, we laughed. Really laughed.

She shared a story that was so simple yet so profoundly beautiful. She walked into her mom’s room one day to check on her and found her mom sitting in her chair, wearing a clean brief on her head like a hat. In that split second, she could have reacted in a number of ways: questioned her mom, corrected her, or even scolded her. But instead, she chose humor.

She smiled and told her mom what a beautiful hat she was wearing. Her mom, clearly delighted, responded by giving her one too. So, she did what many might not—she put it on her head and wore it while they spent time together.

That moment of shared laughter was transformative. It reminded my client of the joy and connection that can still exist within the caregiving relationship, even amidst the challenges. And for me, it was a powerful reminder of the importance of embracing lightness when we can.

Why Laughter Matters in Dementia Care

Laughter is more than just a reaction; it’s a release. It’s a natural medicine that can lift your spirits, reduce stress, and create meaningful bonds. In caregiving—especially dementia caregiving—it’s easy to get lost in the endless to-do lists, emotional strain, and unpredictable moments. But when you allow yourself to laugh, you not only nurture your own well-being but also strengthen the connection with your loved one.

Tips for Finding Humor in Dementia Care

1. Let Go of Perfection: Caregiving is messy, unpredictable, and sometimes downright bizarre. Embrace the imperfection and look for the humor in the unexpected.
2. Join Their World: People with dementia often live in a reality that doesn’t align with ours. Instead of correcting them, join them in their world. Play along, have fun, and see where the moment takes you.
3. Celebrate the Silly: What might seem absurd can actually be a beautiful opportunity to connect. A brief on the head? Why not turn it into a hat fashion show?
4. Share the Laughter: Moments like these are worth sharing with others—whether it’s family, friends, or a support group. Laughter is contagious and can remind others that joy is still possible.

The Takeaway

Caregiving is hard—there’s no sugarcoating that. But amidst the tough days, there are moments of light. And laughter? It’s one of the brightest lights you can find.

So, the next time you face a moment that could go one way or another, take a breath, find the humor, and let yourself laugh. It’s not just for your loved one; it’s for you too. Laughter really is the best medicine.

About the Author

Johanna is a transformation coach dedicated to helping caregivers find balance, reclaim their energy, and thrive in their journey. With years of experience working alongside caregivers of loved ones with dementia, Johanna understands the unique challenges they face. Through her compassionate coaching, workshops, and support resources, she empowers caregivers to prioritize their well-being while strengthening their connection with those they care for.

When Johanna isn’t coaching, you can find her sharing practical tips, heartwarming stories, and laughter-infused strategies to make caregiving not just manageable, but meaningful. Join her mission to embrace the joy and resilience that comes with caregiving on Facebook Dementia Caregiver Support & Wellness Group